What exactly would you need from a partner?
After years of failed relationships, I realized that I never considered ME. I never thought about what I needed from a relationship or the things that made me happy. I was too busy trying to keep a man that I never wanted to impose on them. I intentionally forgot about myself and cared more about their wants and needs. What I didn’t realize was that this signaled to my partner that I didn’t value myself.
I walked away from relationships feeling like I gave my everything and received nothing in return. I blamed myself and I felt resentment. I was bitter. This all happened because I didn’t figure myself out…nevermind that no one cared to ask what my needs were!
Although life isn’t always about reciprocity, in relationships it’s only fair that you both invest in each other. Determined to stop wasting my time, I carefully thought about what my needs were. I then decided that it was best to state my needs early on. This gave my partner a chance to decide if they could fulfill those needs. If you want to build a fulfilling relationship, expressing your needs should be a part of your communication with your partner.
My recommendation: Jot down a list of five things you would need from a relationship. Determine how these things are different than your list of standards. Be prepared to have your needs met. After all, you’re worth it!
